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In our troubled and hurting world, marriages endure much, break-up, or have violence, so, as I read the following prayers and thoughts it seemed good to make them accessible to Trusting in Jesus readers. Brian McMichan
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It's selfish to get married to a person because you think they will make you happy. While happiness is the result of a healthy relationship, marriage is designed to refine you.
Marriage is holy work, hard work. It's going to cost you something you never expected. It will cost you, yourself. It will cost you everything.
You marry because you want to share your life with someone. You marry because you want to build a family. You get married because you want that person to help raise your children. You marry because that man is your person. It was meant to expose the splinters in your soul.
As selfishness rises up, God offers to sand it down. The job of marriage is to expose our dysfunction and propel us towards steady wholeness in Christ.
Marriage is about commitment, sacrifice, serving, giving, forgiving — and then doing all over again — everyday, regardless of changes in personalities, aging bodies, or the ever-waning ebb-and-flow of romantic love. The same goes for praying for your marriage.
The more we understand what God wants for our marriage, the easier it is to yield to his will. So, what is God's will for marriage?
Now that we talked about how God created marriage and how it mirrors Jesus' relationship with his bride, the Church, we must understand what God wants for marriage.
He wants iron to sharpen iron. He wants you both to support each other and to pursue Him with all your hearts, minds, and strengths. He wants you to have children and raise them to know and love Christ.
He wants your love for each other to reflect His love for His people. Therefore, always come to God with a humble heart and as you pray, seek His will.
You and your spouse are two separate people. That may sometimes mean differing opinions, likes, dislikes, personalities, and the list goes on. The healthiest marriages are those in which both parties maintain separate identities and purposes.
The enemy will do everything he can to find and exploit areas of weakness. Our job is to stand united together.
Marriage is resilient, often flourishing in the face of adversity or trial when both have learned to respect one another and to trust in and live to the glory of God.
Your marriage should always be treated with honour, respect, and sacredness — as a reflection of God's great love for His people!
Here are 31 additional ways to pray over your marriage. You can take the following one-worded prompts to pray specifically over this area of your marriage for 31 days, or however you choose. For example:
Unity: Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate (Mark 10:9).
Lord, I lift up my marriage to you today. I thank you for my spouse and for this union. Open my eyes to behaviors, attitudes, habits, or outside relationships that are tearing at our united front.
I pray for a hedge of protection around our union for what You joined together; let no one separate. Amen.
Lord, we pray for:
1. Lord, lead me in a prayer revival for my marriage. Use my spouse and me to be part of the perfecting work You're doing in each of our hearts and lives. Give me greater humility and love so I might care properly for my spouse. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Praying Circles Around Your Marriage, Mark Batterson
2. Dear Lord, relationship struggles are so hard and heartbreaking. Please help us know who to talk to and who can practically help us make hard decisions. Please help us all remember we are worthy because You say so. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Lysa Terkeurst
3. Heavenly Father, relationships are one of the most important things You have given us. And the marriage relationship is especially important, valuable and purposeful. I praise You for creating us as relational beings who can benefit from each other and build into each other. Thank You for the ability to communicate, whether through words, touch, texts or a myriad of other ways. I praise You for the desire You have placed within us to connect with others, and I ask that You increase that desire more in the days, weeks, months and years ahead. - Bruce Wilkinson
4. Oh Lord, thank You for my husband. Thank You for entrusting me with the blessing and responsibility of loving him well. There are certain aspects of our communication where we struggle and misunderstand one another. Please intervene. Give us clarity of thought and respect for each other. Help us to grasp what the other person is communicating. Help us to have a gentle spirit toward each other. - Bruce Wilkinson
5. Gracious Lord, James 1:19 says, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" (NIV). Help my husband and me to remember this when we communicate with each other. Help us to always lead with love and give each other the benefit of the doubt in understanding what the other seeks to communicate. Give us a relationship that's conducive to being open, honest and authentic with each other. Help us in our busy schedules to cultivate time to focus on communication. Give me the courage to discuss those troubling areas in my life and marriage and not withdraw in silent or hidden frustration. Help me speak openly about these areas to my husband in love. Grant my husband an open and receptive heart without anger or defensiveness. Please also add an element of greater spontaneity and fun to our communication. Let us flirt with each other more in what we say and how we say it and revive in us a spirit of playfulness and cheer. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Bruce Wilkinson
6. Heavenly Father, thank You for giving me the gift of my husband. I trust that You intentionally paired us together. Lord, would You capture his heart in new and fresh ways? I surrender him to You. I admit I am not in control and trust You to do what You will in his life. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Jarrad Lopes
7. Dear God, Teach me to fight for my marriage on my knees. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen.
8. Dear Lord, help me tend to my marriage and protect its borders. Show me how to make it a marriage that glorifies You. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen.
9. Father, at times, being married is no fun. It can be hard work. Please grant me a renewed perspective and a fresh resolve to keep working on my marriage in a way that honours You. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Karen Ehman
10. Dear Lord, thank You for my spouse. We want a marriage that reflects Your kind of commitment, Lord, the kind that lasts forever. Remind us, especially in the hard times, that we made a promise to each other and to You to be committed for a lifetime. Holy Spirit, please work in me so I will be the first to forgive and say I'm sorry. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Melanie Chitwood
11. Father God, You alone are perfect. Help me to keep my eyes on You. I know that no one is an easy forever-partner. Remind me daily to curb my critical spirit. Teach me to see my husband through Your eyes. In Lord Jesus' Name, I pray, Amen.
12. Dear God, sometimes life can be SO hard, and I need Your guidance to navigate my path. Lord, help me keep forgiving when I'd much rather hold a grudge, knowing You have totally forgiven me. Empower me to keep fighting for my marriage. Give me the strength to show my mate some unconditional love in meaningful ways today, just like You've done for me. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Stephanie Raquel
13. Dear Lord, I rejoice that You make all things new! You can even raise a dead marriage to new life. I choose to look ahead, not behind, in my marriage. I choose not to call to mind hurt from the past. I can't wait to see what good things You bring to my marriage as I trust and obey You. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Melanie Chitwood
14. Dear Lord, You make all things new. Will You give me new eyes to see the good things I sometimes miss? Help me not to dwell on the past but to focus on the present and future. You are making a way, Lord, and I trust You with my heart, my husband and my marriage. Help us deal with any issues damaging our relationship so we can appreciate the new things You're doing. In Lord Jesus' Name, Amen. - Melanie Chitwood
15. Give me compassion for my spouse and show me how I can be an encouragement to him as we fight this spiritual battle that we are both in. Thank you for the victories you have already given us and for all the work you are doing in our lives and in the lives of our children. - Gina Smith
16. Give me a heart that is grateful for the gift of marriage. Help me to remember that we really are better together! Help me to be intentional to value and love my spouse in the way that he needs to be valued and loved. - Gina Smith
17. Help me commit to loving my spouse in the way your Word tells me to love him. - Gina Smith
18. Gracious God, today I thank You for my spouse. I ask for forgiveness for the words and thoughts that have not been affirming. I pray for healing words to come out of my mouth—words that build up and do not tear down. Please protect my marriage from the pull of the world. Help us to look to You for guidance and keep our commitment to each other without wavering. I ask that You will walk us through every trial with wisdom and grace. In Lord Jesus' name, I pray, Amen. - Jennifer Waddle
19. Lord, I pray now for my marriage. Thank you, God, for my spouse. Thank you for your love for him/her and our marriage. Thank you for being a champion of marriage and wanting to see our marriage last. Forgive me; I often put myself first and push you and my spouse to the back burner. Help me prioritize our marriage. Help me fight for it when it's hard and to enjoy it when it's going well. Help me encourage and support my spouse in all she/he has going on. Help me, Lord! I know that without your guidance and support, I would stumble and fall. Help us put you first and strengthen our resolve to work through the hardest parts of marriage. In Your name I pray, Amen.
A Prayer for Communication During Conflict
20. Dear God, we want to protect our marriage from any threat. We want to live freely and securely as a result of having chosen to live wisely. By Your Spirit, show us how to honor each other and please You. Amen. - Dr. James Dobson
Marriage is intended to be a commitment to which we maintain trust and fidelity until separated by death. In a covenant, we put the needs of the relationship ahead of our own needs, humbly serving each other much as Christ serves the Church.
Thanks, Brian V McMichan
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